When you Lose Your Beloved

Losing your partner may be one of the hardest things you ever go through. It is a traumatic and upsetting experience and it may feel like you’ll never get over it. You should give yourself time to grieve and come to terms with your loss and eventually you will be able to move on and be happy again. 

The death of your loved one can bring on an overwhelming onslaught of emotions. You will be in shock for a while; You’re unable to accept that they are gone. You might feel angry at them for leaving you. Then you’ll feel guilty for thinking this way. It is better to work through your emotions because when you don’t, it may take longer for you to get over it. Ignore the need to be strong and cry if you need to cry. Even if you have close friends and family members, it is advised to seek counseling to help you process your feelings because having someone impartial to talk to can be a great relief. 

Moving on with your life doesn’t need to mean forgetting your partner. It can help you deal with your pain to remember the good times you shared with them. Keep things and other belongings of theirs that mean a lot to you. Find things that remind you of the your great times together. Put them all together in a safe place. Be sure to discard everything else because hanging on to all their things won’t help you heal. 

Reminisce about your favorite memories. Laugh about something silly your partner used to do and smile at their best moments. Your partner will always play an important part in your life even though they are gone. You don’t need to stop thinking about them to move on, but you do need to accept that they won’t be coming back. 

Always remember that you deserve to be happy. Don’t feel guilty about moving on or think that you are betraying your partner in any way. They want you to be happy. Move on at your own comfortable pace. Trying to date again too soon may be a bad idea, and can be difficult and emotional so don’t push yourself. You have probably built up an idealized image of what your partner was like, rather than remembering the reality. Any new partner that you meet is not going to be the same as your partner so try not to compare them. Enjoy spending time with new people and accept them for who they are. If feelings develop, don’t be scared but ask your new partner to be patient with you and explain what happened in your past. 

You may feel that you’ll never get over it and move but with time you will. Always remember that your partner wants you to be happy and that moving on doesn’t mean you have to forget them. 

By Wolfykyn